Ageplay
Definition
Ageplay is a form of roleplay within BDSM or kink in which one or both partners temporarily assume an age other than their actual biological age. This can range from childlike behavior to parental roles, such as “Daddy Dom/little girl” or “Mommy/boy.” Ageplay does not have to be sexual and often revolves around regression, care, power, comfort, or playing with innocence and control.
Explanation of ageplay
Ageplay is an intimate form of role-playing that combines consent, fantasy, and regression. The essence of ageplay is that the adults involved temporarily step out of their everyday roles to experience a different age or dynamic. That “different age” can be symbolic (e.g., “I feel small”) or playfully literal (a sub who behaves like a toddler, preschooler, adolescent, or even a very docile teenager).
Common ageplay roles are:
- Little – a person who acts young and dependent
- Daddy Dom / Mommy Domme – a caring, guiding role
- Middle – a slightly older “child,” for example between 8–14 years old
- Brat – a challenging, mischievous “adolescent” role
- ABDL – Adult Baby/Diaper Lover
Ageplay is rarely purely about sexuality. For many ‘littles’ or middles, it is a form of relaxation, regression, and innocent surrender. Playing with stuffed animals, coloring, walking around in pajamas, crawling time, caregiving, or even wearing diapers or eating baby food are common elements. The dominant partner provides structure, boundaries, and safety – just like a parent figure.
Erotic component
For others, ageplay does have an erotic component. For example, through the contrast between innocence and power, the excitement of forbidden roles, or the gentle surrender of someone who feels “small” under a powerful hand. In this context, ageplay can overlap with DDLG, discipline, spanking, or sexual humiliation.
Ageplay is role-playing between consenting adults. There is no actual underage involvement, child pornography, or pedophilic acts. Ageplay is 100% based on fantasy, consent, and safety. Any comparison to criminal sexual exploitation is incorrect and harmful to the community.
Safety & points of attention
Consent and communication in advance are crucial. Not every Dominant feels comfortable in a parental role. Discuss clearly: what is the desired age range? What are the boundaries? Will it be sexual or not?
Trigger warning: Ageplay can evoke unexpected emotions, especially if there is trauma or unsafe childhood experiences. Be careful with discipline, shame, or punishment games.
Provide aftercare. After regression or intense play, a “little” may feel empty, sad, or confused. A hug, warm drink, and reassurance are essential.
Be cautious in public settings. Although ageplay is 100% legal and consensual, it can be confusing or uncomfortable for outsiders. Be mindful of your surroundings.
Related terms Ageplay
AB
ABDL
Adult Baby
Baby play
DDLG
Infantilism
Regression play
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