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DefinitionBlanket consent is a form of consent within BDSM whereby someone gives prior consent for a broader dynamic or power relationship, rather than for each individual act. The consent covers the entirety of the D/s relationship or experience, not each individual detail. Explanation of blanket consent Blanket consent is often seen as an advanced form of consent and occurs mainly
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DefinitionBitch is a versatile and context-dependent term that has both general linguistic usage and specific meanings within BDSM and kink. Depending on tone, setting, and intention, the word can be offensive, playful, erotic, empowering, or functional. Explanation of bitch In general language use, bitch is often used as a swear word, usually directed at women, with the intention of portraying
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhat is hyperfocus and why does it play such an important role in BDSM? Hyperfocus is a mental state in which attention is extremely focused on one specific task, stimulus, or experience, while everything else temporarily fades into the background. Time, surroundings, external stimuli, and even physical signals can disappear into the background. Within BDSM, hyperfocus is
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DefinitionBengay is an American sports ointment used for temporary relief of muscle and joint pain. The ointment has a strong warming and cooling effect and is sometimes used in BDSM contexts as a sensation enhancer on intact skin. Explanation of Bengay Bengay was originally developed for athletes and people with muscle or joint problems. Its effect is based on ingredients
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DefinitionBelting is a BDSM practice in which a belt is used to strike the body, usually the buttocks, thighs, or sometimes the back. The belt functions as an impact toy and is used within consensual power and pain play. Explanation of belting Belting falls under the category of impact play. Unlike specialized BDSM toys, a belt is an everyday object,
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DefinitionBareback or barebacking refers to sexual contact in which a condom is deliberately not used. Within BDSM and related sexual contexts, this is almost always an explicit, pre-discussed choice, not careless or unconscious behavior. Explanation of bareback – barebacking The term bareback originates from equestrian sports and literally means “without a saddle.” In a sexual context, it refers to skin-to-skin
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Written by: Mistress MoriahThe power of the preliminary interview in BDSM: alignment before surrender Within BDSM, the importance of a good preliminary discussion is often mentioned, but rarely is it explained what makes that preliminary discussion so essential. The preliminary discussion is not a formality, not a checklist that you quickly work through before the “real work” begins. It is
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DefinitionCD is short for crossdressing, which is the wearing of clothing and/or accessories traditionally associated with the opposite sex. Within BDSMand fetishism, this can have an erotic, expressive, or humiliating element, depending on the context and dynamics. For a detailed explanation, see Crossdressing. More information EncyclopediaLetter C
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DefinitionBall play is an informal BDSM term that refers to types of play that focus on the testicles. This can range from light, playful stimulation to more intense forms of CBT (cock and ball torture), depending on context, agreements, and experience. Explanation of ball play The term ball play is mainly used as a collective term and is deliberately vague.
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DefinitionAutomasochism is a psychological and sexual concept that refers to the experience of pain, humiliation or suffering caused by the person themselves and experienced as meaningful, satisfying or regulating. This can be both physical and emotional in nature and does not always have to have an explicit sexual component. Explanation of automasochism Automasochism does not primarily focus on another person,
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