Masturbation
Definition
Masturbation is the self-stimulation of one’s own body, usually the genitals, for the purpose of physical pleasure or achieving orgasm. Within BDSM, masturbation can be a controlled, forbidden, or imposed part of power play, chastity training, or mental conditioning.
Explanation Masturbation
Masturbation is a natural and healthy expression of sexuality. It helps people get to know their bodies, release tension, and explore their desires. Within BDSM, masturbation often takes on an extra layer of control and power. For example, a Dominant may order the sub to satisfy themselves but not to climax (edging), or impose a ban on climaxing or use a chastity belt. In such a context, masturbation changes from a private act into an instrument of obedience, frustration, or surrender.
For many subs, the intensity lies not in the act itself, but in the mental experience: having to follow instructions, the humiliation of being watched, or the desire that cannot be fulfilled. For the Dominant, it can be a means of deepening power, building tension, or consciously confronting the sub with desire and control.
In addition, masturbation also occurs as part of punishment, training, or even comfort within a D/s relationship. It is a way to observe physical reactions, explore boundaries, or consciously create distance from climax.
In all cases, consent and clear communication are essential – especially when masturbation is not voluntary, but is used as a command or abstinence.
Safety & points of attention
Although masturbation is safe in itself, additional risks can arise within BDSM, especially with prolonged abstinence, mechanical aids, or psychological play.
Abstinence can lead to frustration or emotional instability if not properly supervised. Always use water-based lubricant with toys to prevent friction and clean sex toys thoroughly after use.
With edging or prolonged stimulation, it is important to recognize signs of overstimulation, such as pain, numbness, or swelling. Stop if you feel discomfort and give your body a chance to recover.
Psychologically, masturbation within BDSM can evoke strong feelings – from shame and desire to pride and liberation.
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