Cybersex
Definition
Cybersex is a form of sexual interaction that takes place entirely digitally, for example via chat, messages, audio, or video. Within BDSM, cybersex is used to shape power dynamics, eroticism, and experience without physical presence, often as part of online domination, long-distance relationships, or exploratory phases.
Explanation of cybersex
Within BDSM, cybersex is rarely limited to sexual stimulation alone. It is used as a means to build tension, exercise control, deepen fantasy, or maintain a power relationship when physical encounters are not possible. This can range from textual commands and rituals to spoken instructions or visual interaction via camera.
Cybersex is often used within online D/s dynamics, in long-distance relationships, or as an accessible way to explore BDSM before meeting in person. For some people, cybersex is a fully-fledged form of experience, for others it is a supplement to physical BDSM. Because the body is not directly involved, the emphasis shifts strongly to language, imagination, psychological influence, and trust.
Safety & points of attention
Cybersex has fewer risks than physical BDSM, but it is not risk-free. Digital anonymity can lead to deception, abuse of power, or boundary violations. It is important to be alert to manipulative behavior, pressure, or requests for personal information.
Privacy also plays a major role. Images, texts, and recordings can be stored or shared without consent.
Clear agreements about anonymity, the use of cameras, and the recording of content are essential. Here too, consent must always be explicit, mutual, and revocable, even in a digital context.
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