Forced orgasm
Definition
Forced orgasm refers within BDSM to the (controlled or uncontrolled) occurrence of an orgasm against the will or without the active consent of the submissive at that moment. It is a form of play that revolves around power, control, and surrender – where the Dominant determines when and whether to climax, not the sub themselves.
Explanation of forced orgasm
The term forced orgasm may sound harsh or clinical at first, but within BDSM it is a consciously chosen experience that revolves around control over lust. Whereas much sexual interaction focuses on personal pleasure, forced ejaculation revolves around the deprivation of that control. The submissive is no longer the source of action, but the means by which the Dominant asserts his or her will.
In practice, forced orgasm can take place in various ways. Sometimes through prolonged edge play (repeatedly building up and breaking down an orgasm), sometimes through direct physical stimulation from which the submissive cannot escape. Think of bondage, vibrators, masturbation restrictions, or mechanical aids such as a wand or milking machine. The moment of release is then not experienced as a voluntary choice, but as something that is enforced – physically inevitable.
Psychological tension
The appeal of forced release lies in the psychological tension between wanting and not being allowed, or between resistance and surrender. For the submissive, it can be extremely intense to no longer have control over their own climax. For the Dominant, it is an expression of power and control, but also of care: the moment is directed, guided, and often followed by rest or comfort.
Some people experience forced release as liberating – letting go of shame, guilt, or performance pressure. Others experience it as humiliating or disruptive. The meaning depends heavily on the mutual dynamics and the emotional basis in which it occurs.
Safety & points of attention
Always discuss in advance whether the submissive consents to this form of play – consensual non-consent requires complete trust.
Watch for signs of pain, overstimulation, or mental overload.
When using mechanical stimulation (such as vibrators), take breaks to prevent overstimulation.
Do not use the term lightly: forced ejaculation is not a “game of domination,” but a deeply psychological ritual that requires awareness.
Related concepts forced orgasm
Milking
Orgasm control
Tease & denial
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