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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhat is hyperfocus and why does it play such an important role in BDSM? Hyperfocus is a mental state in which attention is extremely focused on one specific task, stimulus, or experience, while everything else temporarily fades into the background. Time, surroundings, external stimuli, and even physical signals can disappear into the background. Within BDSM, hyperfocus is
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Written by: Mistress MoriahThe power of the preliminary interview in BDSM: alignment before surrender Within BDSM, the importance of a good preliminary discussion is often mentioned, but rarely is it explained what makes that preliminary discussion so essential. The preliminary discussion is not a formality, not a checklist that you quickly work through before the “real work” begins. It is
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Written by: Mistress MoriahConsent within BDSM. About consent, trust, and the tension between stability and change. Foundation of BDSM Consent or consensual is the foundation of every BDSM experience. Without consent, there is no play, no dynamics, and no safety. At the same time, consent is not a fixed given. It is not a signature on a contract that remains
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Written by: Mistress MoriahRelationship possibilities within BDSM. Power, submission, and connection in all their forms and nuances. Within BDSM, there is often talk of game types, roles, and dynamics, but just as important is the type of relationship in which those dynamics are experienced. BDSM is not a fixed format. It is a broad spectrum of relational agreements in which
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Written by: Mistress MoriahSeeing and being seen within BDSM: Psychological safety, reciprocity, and the line between growth and destruction Seeing and being seen Seeing and being seen is one of the most fundamental human needs. Developmental psychology, attachment theory, and modern trauma science are remarkably consistent on this point. People need not only physical closeness, but above all recognition. The
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Written by: Mistress MoriahSafe, responsible, and respectful use of the body, equipment, and space means cleaning thoroughly. Hygiene is an important part BDSM is all about trust, surrender, and physical intimacy. That is precisely why hygiene is not a minor issue, but an essential foundation for every experience. Anyone who works with materials, whether toys, bondage equipment, or an entire
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhat BDSM coaching can mean for you and your relationship. BDSM coaching BDSM coaching is an important, sometimes even necessary step in the process of self-acceptance for many people. Not because there is anything “wrong” with them, but precisely because desires, fantasies, and inner motivations within BDSM often touch people more deeply than they initially expect. Those
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhy pornographic images mislead us and how we can rediscover the true complexity of BDSM Spectacular but lacking substance Anyone who delves into BDSM today will quickly find themselves in a world where images often speak louder than words. Social media, clip sites, and platforms focused on pornography present a version of BDSM that looks spectacular but
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhy words sometimes cause a world of misunderstandings… Thin layer of fog Language is beautiful. It connects, it clarifies, it opens doors to knowledge and understanding. But within BDSM, language sometimes also acts as a thin layer of fog. A word may seem clear, but in practice it is interpreted in such different ways that people misunderstand
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Written by: Mistress Moriah“A loving guide through the jungle of words, meanings, and experiences. How do you find your own way in this?” All those terms can be overwhelming Anyone entering the BDSM world for the first time will quickly notice that it’s like arriving in a new country, with its own language, dialects, and secret codes. At least, that’s
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