Candles/candle wax
Definition
Playing with candles and candle wax (also known as wax play) is a form of sensory play within BDSM in which warm drops of candle wax are applied to the skin of the sub. The play revolves around the interplay between heat, tension, pain, and surrender.
Explanation of candles/candle wax
The use of candles in BDSM has an almost ritualistic appeal. The dancing flame, the smell of melting wax, and the slowly dripping candle wax enhance the sensory experience between Dominant and sub. The temperature of the candle wax varies depending on the type, allowing the intensity of the sensation to be controlled.
Paraffin candles, for example, produce relatively cool wax (around 50–55 °C), while beeswax has a much higher melting temperature (around 65–70 °C) and therefore feels considerably hotter. There are also special BDSM candles that are formulated so that the wax is less hot and therefore safer to use on the skin.
The ritual aspect of candle play is often combined with other forms of experience, such as bondage, spanking, or sensory deprivation (blindfold, music, silence). The Dominant determines where and when the hot fat drips, which brings the sub into total surrender. Some players combine colored candles with symbolism or rituals, for example, white for purification or red for passion.
Safety & points of attention
Safety is crucial in candle wax play. Not every type of candle is suitable. Only use candles made of pure paraffin or wax specifically intended for BDSM.
Avoid scented candles, colored candles, or cheap candles of unknown composition: additives such as perfume, dye, or stearin increase the melting temperature and can cause burns.
Always test on a small area of skin first and keep a sufficient distance between the candle and the body (usually 40 to 60 cm). The closer the candle is held to the skin, the hotter the wax will be.
Vulnerable areas such as the face, breasts, nipples, genitals, and inner thighs should be approached with extra caution. Avoid areas with open wounds or fresh shaving cuts.
Afterwards, the skin can be treated with a mild oil, such as jojoba oil, to reduce irritation. Always keep water, a wet cloth, or a fire blanket handy, and do not use candles in combination with flammable oils or sprays.
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