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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhy draining Dominants is not surrender, but a psychological mechanism Within BDSM, there is often talk of power, and surrender. Less often mentioned is what happens psychologically when desires are not acted upon, but are placed on the other person. Yet it is precisely this mechanism that is a major cause of exhaustion among Dominants. It has
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DefinitionA full swap is an agreement between two couples whereby both partners have full sexual contact with the partner of the other couple. Explanation of full swap The term is mainly used in the swinger or partner-swapping world and describes a situation in which two couples decide to temporarily swap partners. In a full swap, sexual contact actually takes place
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DefinitionThe F.R.I.E.S. principle is an acronym used to clarify when consent (consent) is truly valid within sexual or relational interactions. Explanation of the F.R.I.E.S. principle The model was popularized by the American organization Planned Parenthood and is widely used in education about sexuality, relationships, and BDSM. The acronym helps to make consent concrete and verifiable. Instead of a vague “yes,”
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DefinitionA Foley catheter (or balloon catheter) is a medical indwelling catheter that is inserted into the bladder via the urethra and held in place by a small fluid-filled balloon. Explanation of foley catheter The Foley catheter was developed for strictly medical applications, such as draining urine in patients who are unable to urinate independently, during operations, or in long-term care
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DefinitionFluid play refers to BDSM activities in which bodily fluids play a role in the game or experience, often in a context of control, surrender, humiliation, care, or ritual. Explanation of fluid play The term is a collective concept and in itself says little about the specific act. What matters is that fluids consciously become part of the interaction and
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DefinitionFlexible restraints are bondage aids that restrict the body using flexible materials such as rope, leather, nylon, fabric, or silicone, whereby the restraint adapts to the shape and movement of the body. Explanation of flexible restraints Within BDSM, the term flexible restraints refers to all forms of restraint that do not consist of a single rigid construction. Unlike rigid aids
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DefinitionA flared base is a widened, flared base at the end of a sex toy, designed to prevent it from disappearing completely into the body. It is mainly used for anal toys. Explanation of flared base In BDSM and sexual safety, a flared base is an essential safety feature. With anal use, there is no natural “stop” as there is
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DefinitionA fiddle is a rigid bondage device that binds the neck and both wrists together in a fixed position, severely restricting the wearer’s freedom of movement and making them dependent on the attendant. Explanation of the fiddle The fiddle, also known as a bondage fiddle, rigid fiddle, or historically as a shrew’s fiddle, is a rigid construction usually made of
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DefinitionA fetish dispenser is an informal term within BDSM and kink for a person who is reduced by another to a “supplier” of specific fetish desires, without recognition of their own personality, boundaries, or reciprocity within the dynamic. Explanation of fetish dispenser The term fetish dispenser is not an official psychological or medical term. It is an informal, sometimes cynically
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhere can you strike, and where should you avoid striking? Safe impact play begins with knowledge of the body. Impact play can be intense, bonding, and deeply relaxing, but only when performed with anatomical knowledge and respect for the physical limits of the body. Striking is not a random act. Under the skin lie muscles, nerve pathways,
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