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DefinitionChaps are leather (or imitation leather) leg coverings that originally come from equestrian sports, but are worn as erotic clothing in BDSM and fetish. They cover the legs and hips, while the crotch and often the buttocks remain exposed. Explanation of chaps Within BDSM, chaps have a distinct symbolic and aesthetic function. They accentuate the body, emphasize the legs and
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DefinitieASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) is, within BDSM and fetishism, a sensory fetish and form of stimulation in which specific sounds, movements, or textures evoke a strong physical and mental response. This response can be relaxing, but also explicitly arousing, depending on the type of stimulus, the context, and personal sensitivity. ASMR is used to enhance tension, desire, focus, and
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Written by: Mistress MoriahAbsolute must-haves in your own dungeon, what should definitely not be missing? Building your own dungeon is a dream for many BDSM enthusiasts. A space where atmosphere, control, experience, and safety come together. However, in practice, I see that when setting up a dungeon, the emphasis is often on aesthetics and play equipment, while the real basis
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DefinitionDacryphilia is a sexual or emotional attraction to tears, crying, or visible emotional release. Within BDSM, it refers to finding tears caused by intense emotion, surrender, or tension exciting or meaningful, not necessarily physical pain. Explanation of dacryphilia Within BDSM, dacryphilia is often misunderstood as a desire to make someone cry. In practice, the emphasis is usually not on causing
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DefinitionComplete Irrevocable Submission (CIS) is an Anglo-American term used in BDSM to describe a lifestyle relationship in which submission is structurally and permanently embedded in everyday life. In a CIS relationship, SM is not central as a game or isolated experience, but as the foundation of the relationship and power dynamics. The submissive transfers his or her autonomy to a
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DefinitionCOF is an abbreviation for Cum on the Face and is used within BDSM, porn, and fetish contexts to refer to a sexual act or fantasy in which the man’s semen lands on the partner’s face. The term is often used as a description, agreement, or search term within adult, consensual settings. Explanation of COF Within BDSM, COF rarely refers
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DefinitionA cash meet is a physical meeting within financial domination (findom) where the main purpose is for the sub to hand over cash to the Dominant, usually a female Dominant (findomme, goddess). The core of a cash meet is the transfer of money and the experience of power, not physical or sexual play. Explanation of cash meet In a cash
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DefinitionA bridle, also known as a witch’s mask, is a historical instrument of punishment that was used to prevent people from speaking. Originally, it was used as punishment for so-called slanderers, gossips, or people who were considered troublesome, disobedient, or seditious. In modern BDSM contexts, the bridle has become a symbolic and ritual object, disconnected from its original punitive function.
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DefinitionBoytoy or Toyboy is a term used in BDSM and Femdom to describe a male submissive who, with consent, positions himself as a ‘toy’, ‘sexual plaything’ or possession of a dominant woman. The term does not refer to objectification without mutual consent, but to an agreed role within a power dynamic in which surrender, service and devotion are central. Explanation
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DefinitionBlood sports is a term within BDSM that is used for consensual forms of play in which a small amount of blood may be released deliberately. It falls under what is often called edge play: BDSM practices that involve an increased risk and therefore require exceptional knowledge, experience, consent, and safety awareness. Explanation of blood sports Blood sports are not
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