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DefinitionA top is the person who takes on the active, performing role during a BDSM session. A top provides the stimuli, actions, or techniques, but does not necessarily have to be a Dominant. The term refers to the function in the game, not to a fixed role in a D/s dynamic. Explanation Top Within BDSM, there is an important distinction
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DefinitionA toilet slave is a submissive who, in a consensual BDSM dynamic, serves as a “toilet” for a dominant, usually in the form of receiving or consuming bodily fluids such as urine and, in rare cases, feces. It is a form of extreme fetishism and belongs to the categories of degradation and possession play. Explanation of toilet slave The role
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DefinitionTime within BDSM refers to the altered perception of time that can occur during a session, where stimuli, emotions, and surrender can make minutes feel like seconds or seem to last forever. Explanation of time Within BDSM, time is not experienced in the same way as in everyday life. As soon as a session begins, attention shifts from clock time
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DefinitionThuddy pain is a deep, dull form of pain caused by broad, heavy, or massive impact. Instead of a sharp stimulus on the surface, thuddy pain feels like a heavy blow that resonates deep within the muscles or flesh. It is essentially the opposite of stingy pain. Explanation of thuddy pain Thuddy pain is the opposite of stingy pain. Whereas
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DefinitionTopping from the Bottom (TFTB) is a term used in BDSM to describe a situation in which a sub attempts to influence or control the dynamic through behavior, words, or emotion, effectively taking the lead while formally remaining in the submissive role. Explanation of TFTB – Topping from the Bottom In a healthy D/s dynamic, the sub consciously chooses to
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DefinitionNipple torture is a form of BDSM play in which the nipples are deliberately stimulated, pinched, pulled, tapped, or stretched to cause pain, pleasure, or both. It can range from gentle stimulation to very intense torture, depending on the preferences of the sub and the technique chosen. Explanation of nipple torture The nipples are among the most nerve-rich and sensitive
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DefinitionA TENS unit is an electronic device that delivers small electrical pulses to the skin via electrodes. Within BDSM, it is used for controlled electrical stimulation (e-stim), ranging from tingling and prickling to deep muscle contractions. Explanation of TENS unit The TENS unit originated in physiotherapy, where it is used to stimulate muscles or reduce pain. Within BDSM, the device
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DefinitionTemperature play is a form of sensual or intense BDSM play that uses differences in temperature to stimulate the body of the submissive, such as with ice, warm oil, heated objects, or cold metal objects. Explanation of temperature play Temperature play is all about contrast. The body reacts strongly to heat and cold, which makes this form of play ideal
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DefinitionTease and denial is a form of erotic play in which the Dominant arouses, stimulates, and brings the sub to a high level of tension, but does not allow them to climax. The game revolves around building desire, increasing control, and reinforcing mental and physical submission. Explanation of tease & denial Tease & denial does not focus on the act
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DefinitionA tawse is a leather striking instrument, usually originating from Scotland, consisting of a sturdy strip of leather split into two or more tongues at the end. It is used for impact play and causes a sharp, intense, and penetrating type of pain. Explanation of tawse The tawse – also known as the Scottish whip – has its origins in
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