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Written by: Mistress MoriahSeeing and being seen within BDSM: Psychological safety, reciprocity, and the line between growth and destruction Seeing and being seen Seeing and being seen is one of the most fundamental human needs. Developmental psychology, attachment theory, and modern trauma science are remarkably consistent on this point. People need not only physical closeness, but above all recognition. The
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DefinitionCervix play (also known as cervical play or cervical stimulation) is a sexual practice in which the cervix is stimulated, usually during penetrative sex, with fingers, a sex toy, or a penis. It does not involve actual penetration of the cervix – which is anatomically almost impossible because the opening (os) is very small and filled with mucus – but
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Written by: Mistress MoriahSafe, responsible, and respectful use of the body, equipment, and space means cleaning thoroughly. Hygiene is an important part BDSM is all about trust, surrender, and physical intimacy. That is precisely why hygiene is not a minor issue, but an essential foundation for every experience. Anyone who works with materials, whether toys, bondage equipment, or an entire
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DefinitionA bullet vibrator is a small, compact vibrating toy used for targeted stimulation of sensitive areas such as the clitoris, nipples, penis, perineum, or other erogenous zones. Within BDSM, the bullet vibrator is often used for tease & denial, control, sensation play, and orgasm control. Explanation bullet vibrator The bullet vibrator owes its name to its small, bullet-shaped appearance. Its
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhat BDSM coaching can mean for you and your relationship. BDSM coaching BDSM coaching is an important, sometimes even necessary step in the process of self-acceptance for many people. Not because there is anything “wrong” with them, but precisely because desires, fantasies, and inner motivations within BDSM often touch people more deeply than they initially expect. Those
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DefinitionBlue balls is an informal term for the feeling of pain, pressure, or heaviness in the testicles that can occur after prolonged sexual arousal without release. Within BDSM, this often occurs during tease & denial, chastity, or orgasm control. Explanation of blue balls Blue balls occur when sexual arousal is sustained for a long period of time. During arousal, blood
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhy pornographic images mislead us and how we can rediscover the true complexity of BDSM Spectacular but lacking substance Anyone who delves into BDSM today will quickly find themselves in a world where images often speak louder than words. Social media, clip sites, and platforms focused on pornography present a version of BDSM that looks spectacular but
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DefinitionAlcohol is a mind-altering substance that is strongly discouraged within BDSM due to its negative effect on perception, boundaries, and safety. At the same time, alcohol plays an important and positive role as a disinfectant, used for hygiene and infection prevention on skin, hands, and materials within safe BDSM experiences. Explanation of alcohol BDSM is all about presence, attunement, and
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DefinitionAnxiety within BDSM refers to the tension, anticipation, physical alertness, or mental restraint that can arise when a submissive is confronted with uncertainty, pain stimuli, power transfer, or intense experiences. Anxiety is not a goal in itself, but when experienced voluntarily and safely, it can become part of excitement, deepening, and surrender. Explanation of fear Fear plays a special role
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Written by: Mistress MoriahWhy words sometimes cause a world of misunderstandings… Thin layer of fog Language is beautiful. It connects, it clarifies, it opens doors to knowledge and understanding. But within BDSM, language sometimes also acts as a thin layer of fog. A word may seem clear, but in practice it is interpreted in such different ways that people misunderstand
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