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DefinitionA ring gag is a gag with an open, round metal or plastic ring that forces the mouth open. It is used to restrict speech, increase surrender, or provide access to the mouth during BDSM play. Explanation of ring gag Whereas a classic ball gag closes the mouth, a ring gag does exactly the opposite: it keeps the mouth wide
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DefinitionRimming is a sexual act in which a partner’s anus is stimulated with the mouth and tongue. This form of oral-anal sex is also known as anilingus or ass licking. Within BDSM, it can be both an intimate form of surrender and an element of humiliation play, depending on the intention and dynamics between Dominant and sub. Explanation of rimming
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DefinitionA rigger is the person who ties ropes during bondage or Shibari. The rigger is responsible for the technique, safety, communication, and experience of the person being tied. Explanation of rigger In bondage – and certainly in shibari – the rigger plays an important, often almost ceremonial role. It is the rigger who determines how the rope moves across the
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DefinitionA relsub is a sub who exhibits excessively dramatic, explosive, demanding, or emotionally disruptive behavior within a D/s dynamic. The behavior often revolves around attention, chaos, or validation and can damage a dynamic or make it unsafe. Explanation of relsub The term relsub is mainly used to describe a sub who, instead of submission, introduces relational behavior, emotional manipulation, or
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DefinitionRPE, or Realistic Power Exchange, is a power dynamic based on the ideals of Total Power Exchange (TPE), but adapted to realistic, achievable, and healthy boundaries in everyday life. It is a form of D/s in which complete surrender is sought within the limits of what is practical, mentally, and relationally responsible. For a detailed explanation, see Realistic Power Exchange.
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DefinitionRealistic Power Exchange (RPE) is a power dynamic based on the ideals of Total Power Exchange (TPE), but adapted to realistic, achievable, and healthy boundaries in everyday life. It is a form of D/s in which complete surrender is sought within the limits of what is practical, mentally, and relationally responsible. Explanation of realistic power exchange TPE is a much-discussed
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DefinitionRape play is a form of consensual role-playing in which one or both partners act out a fantasized scenario that resembles coercion, overpowering, or lack of control, while all actions are completely voluntary, pre-discussed, and safe. Explanation rape play Rape play is one of the most delicate and psychologically complex forms of BDSM. The game is not about real coercion
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DefinitionRACK stands for Risk-Aware Consensual Kink: an international BDSM guideline that emphasizes that all parties involved consciously agree to kink play, including the risks involved. Explanation of RACK RACK was created in response to the limitations of SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual). Many BDSM practices are, by definition, not “completely safe,” because pain, bondage, impact play, or humiliation always involve
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DefinitionR/I stands for receiving/inserting and is used in penetration play to indicate who is receiving and who is inserting. It is a short, practical indication of roles within sex or BDSM. Explanation of R/I The abbreviation R/I is mainly used in online profiles, chats, and advertisements within the BDSM and swingers scene. It is a quick way to indicate someone’s
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DefinitionQueer is an umbrella term for people who do not fully identify with traditional categories of sexual orientation or gender. It is used to express space, fluidity, and diversity in identity and experience. Explanation of queer The word queer has a long history. Once used as a slur, it is now embraced by many people as a positive, open identity.
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