Rimming
Definition
Rimming is a sexual act in which a partner’s anus is stimulated with the mouth and tongue. This form of oral-anal sex is also known as anilingus or ass licking. Within BDSM, it can be both an intimate form of surrender and an element of humiliation play, depending on the intention and dynamics between Dominant and sub.
Explanation of rimming
Rimming is one of the most intimate forms of oral stimulation because it literally revolves around surrender, trust, and openness. In many cultures, the anus is a taboo area – which is precisely what makes the act extra exciting for some. Within BDSM, ass play can take on different meanings: from a loving, caring act to a powerful means of control. For some subs, it symbolizes complete devotion, while for others it is primarily a sensual or submissive experience.
The physical sensation of anal play is unique: the skin around the anus is rich in nerve endings and, if clean and relaxed, can be very sensitive to touch. The Dominant or giver determines the pace and intensity, sometimes combined with gentle breathing, licking, or penetration with the tongue. In a more humiliating context, the act can be used as a means of control or surrender – for example, when the sub is instructed to serve the Master(ess) by licking or kissing their anus.
Although the subject is often approached in a humorous or uncomfortable manner in popular culture, ass licking has a deeper meaning within many BDSM relationships: it is the ultimate expression of trust, physical acceptance, and total openness. After all, it requires not only physical closeness, but also mental surrender to the moment and to the other person.
Safety & points of attention
Hygiene is essential when it comes to rimming. The anus is not a sterile area and may contain bacteria that can be transmitted through the mouth.
Thorough cleaning is necessary prior to the act: wash with mild soap and water or, if desired, use a small anal douche.
If necessary, use a dental dam (a thin latex sheet) as a protective layer to reduce the risk of infections such as hepatitis A, E. coli, or parasites.
Avoid rimming if there are open wounds, gum problems, or inflammation, both in the giver and the receiver. Also, be aware of sharp teeth or stubble that can irritate sensitive skin.
Afterwards, it is wise to rinse your mouth with water or a mild mouthwash. Do not use aggressive cleaning agents or disinfectants on the skin. The experience can be physically and emotionally intense; give each other time to calm down.
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