R/I
Definition
R/I stands for receiving/inserting and is used in penetration play to indicate who is receiving and who is inserting. It is a short, practical indication of roles within sex or BDSM.
Explanation of R/I
The abbreviation R/I is mainly used in online profiles, chats, and advertisements within the BDSM and swingers scene. It is a quick way to indicate someone’s role in penetrative play.
Receiving (R) refers to the person receiving penetration – this can be vaginal, anal, or with toys.
Inserting (I) refers to the person who penetrates – with a penis, fingers, or toys.
The term is deliberately neutral: it says nothing about dominance or submissiveness. For example, a sub can be inserting (in pegging or pussy torture) and a Dominant can be receiving when that is part of the play. R/I is therefore exclusively about the physical role, not about the power dynamic.
Safety & points of attention
Clearly agree on what form of penetration is meant. Vaginal, anal, or with toys can have completely different boundaries.
Receiving does not have to be submissive; inserting does not have to be dominant.
Both vaginal and anal play can be painful or harmful without lubricant.
Consider condoms, toys with a flared base, and hygiene.
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