Objectification
Definition
Objectification within BDSM refers to the conscious treatment or experience of a person as an object, in a context of voluntary power play. The sub is temporarily reduced to a function, possession, or instrument, whereby their own will or identity is subordinated to the wishes of the Dominant.
It is an intense form of psychological and symbolic play, in which words such as possession, furniture, toy or thing are not meant to be humiliating, but form part of a controlled and agreed dynamic.
Explanation of objectification
Objectification takes many forms and degrees. The core idea is that a sub temporarily gives up his or her humanity in order to be completely subservient. This can be expressed physically, mentally, or symbolically:
Physically: the sub acts as a footstool, table, or decorative element during a session or experience.
Mentally: the sub is addressed and treated as if he or she has no opinion, voice, or emotions – only function.
Sexually: the sub’s body is used as an instrument of pleasure, without emphasis on reciprocity (always within pre-agreed boundaries).
For many submissives, this is not humiliation, but rather a form of deep surrender. By allowing themselves to “lose” themselves in the role of object, they experience peace, clarity, and an almost meditative emptiness. For Dominants, it can feel powerful to have complete control, but at the same time it requires great responsibility and self-control.
The meaning of objectification differs per dynamic: for some it is a short-term role play, for others a fixed part of their D/s structure. In long-term relationships it can even take on a ritual dimension, whereby the sub consciously embodies his or her role as property or attribute of the Master(ess).
Safety & points of attention
Objectification requires a very strong sense of mental safety. The sub must be able to surrender completely without fear or doubt about boundaries.
Clearly agree on what is temporary and what is symbolic. No one is actually the property of another; it is about perception, not reality.
Use stop words or signals that can also be used when the sub is not allowed to speak (e.g., a bell or hand gesture).
Ensure that the Dominant remains alert to physical discomfort: a sub who functions as furniture may experience cramps, dizziness, or insufficient blood flow.
Objectification should never be confused with dehumanization outside of play. As soon as the context of consent or mutual respect disappears, it is no longer BDSM but abuse.
Related terms objectification
Human ashtray
Human furniture
Humiliation
Furniture
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