Lesbian
Definition
Lesbian means that a woman feels emotionally, romantically, and/or sexually attracted to other women. Within BDSM, it refers to women who (exclusively or otherwise) play with, love, or enter into a D/s relationship with other women.
Explanation of lesbian
In the BDSM world, the concept of lesbian often has a deeper meaning than just sexual preference. Many women experience a form of mutual understanding, sensitivity, and intuitive attunement in their contact with other women that is sometimes more difficult to find in heterosexual dynamics. Within the lesbian BDSM scene, the emphasis is often on connection, emotional safety, and subtle power exchange.
Touch, energy, scent, dominance, and gentleness are played with great precision—with strength and tenderness constantly alternating. Historically, lesbian women have played an important role in BDSM culture, especially in the 1970s and 1980s, when female dominance and sexual freedom gained ground within the feminist movement. “Lesbian leather” groups and women’s collectives created safe spaces where women could openly experiment with power, eroticism, and identity, without male presence.
Femdom culture
This has greatly contributed to the visibility of female Dominants and the development of the Femdom culture as we know it today. Nowadays, the boundaries between lesbian, bisexual, and pansexual in the BDSM scene are sometimes fluid. For many, it is less about gender and more about energy, connection, and experience. Nevertheless, the term “lesbian” remains important as a symbol of female autonomy, love between women, and the power to see and touch each other on a deeper level.
Safety & points of attention
As with all forms of BDSM, open communication is essential, including within lesbian relationships or sessions.
Women may be inclined to communicate more subtly or assume that the other person “can sense it,” but it is precisely in intense forms of play that explicit discussion about boundaries, desires, and aftercare is necessary.
Safety goes beyond physical protection: it also involves emotional reciprocity and respect for personal history or trauma.
Always use condoms or latex covers during penetration or when using toys, even between women, to prevent the transmission of infections. Disinfect sex toys carefully and use water-based lubricant if necessary to prevent irritation.
Related terms lesbian
Bisexual
Heterosexual
Heteroflexible
Heterosexual
Homosexual
More information
