Exhibitionism
Definition
Exhibitionism is the desire to be seen (partially) naked or sexually active, usually with the aim of experiencing excitement, arousal, or recognition. Within BDSM, it is a voluntary experience of control, exposure, and surrender, often in a safe, agreed-upon context.
Explanation exhibitionism
Exhibitionism comes from the Latin exhibere, which means ‘to show’ or ‘to display’. The desire to be seen is timeless and comes in many forms: from subtle excitement when wearing provocative clothing to explicit acts in a controlled setting. Within BDSM, exhibitionism is not about crossing boundaries, but about consciously chosen exposure.
In the dynamic between Dominant and submissive, showing the body, shame, or vulnerability can be part of the experience. The sub may be given instructions to undress, stand still, or allow themselves to be looked at. This can evoke feelings of excitement, humiliation, pride, or liberation. The Dominant, in turn, experiences control and power, but also responsibility for the safety of the situation.
Intimate forms of play
Exhibitionism within BDSM can range from intimate forms of play – such as being watched by the Dominant – to public settings, such as kinky parties, photo shoots, or voyeuristic sessions. In all cases, voluntariness, respect, and consent form the basis. The game is not about coercion, but about the mental and erotic tension that arises when someone consciously becomes visible.
Safety & points of attention
There is an important difference between consensual exhibitionism and the clinical or compulsive exhibitionism that is considered a disorder in psychology. Within BDSM, exhibitionism is only healthy when it takes place with the full consent of all involved and without outsiders being confronted against their will.
Essential points to consider are:
Never engage in this activity in public places where others may witness it without being asked.
Use private spaces, private clubs, or safe events where these forms of play are permitted.
Discuss in advance how the sub feels about being watched. Shame can be exciting, but it can also make one vulnerable.
In the right setting, exhibitionism can be liberating. It is a way to turn shame into strength and transform vulnerability into something that evokes admiration or acceptance. It is precisely the combination of fear and desire that makes this experience so intense and meaningful for many people.
Related concepts exhibitionism
Voyeurism
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