Destroy Dick December
Definition
Destroy Dick December is an erotic game or challenge in which the participant is brought to orgasm or stimulates themselves daily throughout the month of December, often with increasing intensity. Within BDSM, it is not taken literally, but used as a form of control, release, or submission in the context of orgasm control, tease & denial, or training.
Explanation of Destroy Dick December
The term originally emerged as an internet joke, as a counterpart to No Nut November—the month in which participants would completely abstain from masturbation or ejaculation. In BDSM circles, Destroy Dick December quickly took on a deeper meaning. It is not about blatant adultery or excessive masturbation, but about the experience of power, discipline, and surrender.
Within a D/s relationship, a Dominant may, for example, determine that the submissive must masturbate daily, count, report, or wait for permission to climax. In some variants, climax is even forbidden, postponed, or imposed when the sub no longer wants it. The game is then not so much about lust, but about the mental and physical surrender that arises when someone explores their limits within a framework of control.
Symbolic meaning
Destroy Dick December can also take on symbolic meaning: it marks the end of the year, a period of letting go, releasing, and surrendering to what has been built up. For some, it represents the “destruction” of old patterns or tensions, literally through physical release. For others, it is a period of obedience or devotion to their Master or Mistress.
The challenge is mainly mental. The line between pleasure and discomfort becomes blurred, especially when the game is extended with edging (stopping just before orgasm), overstimulation, or punishment after an unauthorized climax. This game reveals how thin the line is between pleasure, pain, and power- and how these three constantly influence each other within BDSM.
Safety & points to consider
Destroy Dick December is not a harmless game if taken literally. Excessive masturbation can lead to skin irritation, pain, bruising, temporary numbness, or even inflammation. Within a BDSM context, it is therefore always about conscious experience and not physical exhaustion.
A few important points to consider:
Be realistic. No one has to perform every day. Use the challenge as a mental exercise, not as a competition.
Use lubricant or soothing cream to prevent irritation.
Set the rules together. Is it just masturbation, or is consent or abstinence also part of the game?
Add rest days to allow the body to recover.
Keep communicating about boundaries, fatigue, and emotional effects.
For Dominants, it is important to realize that this game can be hard on the body and psyche. The emphasis should be on experience, not numbers. Use it to gain insight into control, desire, and discipline, not to physically force or exhaust someone.
Related terms
Edging
Locktober
No nuts November
Orgasm control
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