Cunnilingus
Definition
Cunnilingus is the oral stimulation of the vulva and clitoris with the tongue, lips, or mouth. It can be a form of foreplay, but within BDSM it can also be an explicit part of servitude or sexual domination.
Explanation of cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is one of the most intimate forms of sexual surrender, because it literally revolves around closeness, trust, and receptivity. Within a BDSM context, cunnilingus can have different meanings, depending on the dynamic between Dominant and submissive. For many female Dominants, it is a way to bring the sub into physical and mental surrender. The act is then seen not only as sexual stimulation, but as an act of homage or devotion. The submissive serves her – not only by obeying, but by worshipping her body.
Some Mistresses use cunnilingus as a reward or as part of a session, or as confirmation of the hierarchy. For others, it is a playful, intimate form of contact that strengthens connection and trust. There are also subs who experience it as humiliation, precisely because they must literally submit to her will. In that case, the emphasis is not on lust, but on power and control.
Determining the intensity
Cunnilingus can be gentle and loving, or rough and forceful. For example, a Dominant can grab the sub’s head and determine the intensity, while the sub must remain completely still or follow her instructions. The emotional charge is often just as intense as the physical sensation: desire, shame, pride, and surrender intertwine.
Safety & points of attention
Hygiene is important during oral sex. Wash thoroughly before and after, especially if you are playing with multiple partners. Avoid cunnilingus if you have infections, wounds, or during menstruation (unless both parties consciously want to). If necessary, use a dental dam or latex cloth as protection with unknown partners.
Also communicate about pace and pressure: not every woman experiences the same sensitivity in the clitoris or labia. In a D/s context, control often lies with the Dominant, but it remains important to know what feels pleasant and safe. Prolonged intense cunnilingus can irritate the skin; a little water-based lubricant can help reduce friction.
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