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DefinitionStingy pain is a sharp, stinging pain sensation that is felt superficially on the skin and is characterized by intensity, speed, and short, intense stimuli. Explanation of stingy pain Within BDSM, stingy pain and thuddy pain form an important distinction in the perception of pain. Stingy pain is the stimulus that “bites” immediately: fast, fierce, and sharp, as if tiny
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DefinitionSSICK stands for Safe, Sane, Informed, Consensual, Kinky: a modern BDSM guideline that emphasizes that all forms of play are experienced in a safe, sensible, well-informed, completely voluntary, and consciously kinky manner. Explanation of SSICK SSICK was developed as an extension of the well-known SSC model. Whereas SSC focuses primarily on safety, common sense, and consent, SSICK adds two important
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DefinitionSSC stands for Safe, Sane & Consensual: a commonly used ethical guideline within BDSM that emphasizes that all actions must be safe, sensible, and voluntary. Explanation of SSC SSC originated in the 1980s as a response to misunderstandings and negative perceptions surrounding BDSM. The term became a way of making it clear that BDSM between consenting adults has nothing to
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DefinitionA spanko is someone who has a strong preference, fascination, or fetish for spanking. This may mean that the person enjoys receiving, giving, or both roles within consensual pain play. Explanation of spanko The term spanko is used for people for whom spanking is not just a playful part of sex or BDSM, but rather a core preference, almost a
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DefinitionSpanish fly is the name given to a so-called aphrodisiac that was formerly sold as a libido enhancer, but in reality contains a highly dangerous, toxic substance (cantharidin). Its use within BDSMor sexual contexts is strongly discouraged. Explanation Spanish fly Spanish fly has an almost mythical reputation as a libido enhancer, but this is based entirely on misunderstandings and historical
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DefinitionSounds are long, smooth metal or silicone rods that are inserted into the urethra for medical, erotic, or BDSM-related stimulation. They vary in thickness and length and are used in urethral play. See also dilators. For a detailed explanation, see dilator. More information EncyclopediaLetter S
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DefinitionSoft swap is a form of consensual swinging in which couples share sexual or intimate activities with others, but without penetrative sex. So there is physical and erotic interaction, but the most explicit forms remain within the couple’s own relationship. Explanation of soft swap Soft swap originated in the swinger world, but is increasingly common in open relationships, polyamory, and
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DefinitionSoft SM is a form of sadomasochistic play that focuses on mild, controlled pain stimuli and gentle D/s dynamics. It is an accessible way to explore pain play without hard impact or extreme intensity. Explanation of Soft SM Soft SM is the gentle version of sadomasochism. Instead of hard blows, deep red marks, or intense pain stimuli, soft SM revolves
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DefinitionA smother box is a BDSM piece of furniture or structure in which the head of the sub is placed in a fixed opening so that the dominant can sit on top of or over the face for controlled smothering. It is a form of breath play and face sitting that can only be performed safely within strict agreements and
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DefinitionSmell play is a form of BDSM play in which smell is deliberately used to evoke arousal, submission, excitement, or disgust. This can range from sensual body odors to fetish-oriented, intense, or even challenging smells. Explanation of smell play Smell play revolves around one powerful sense: smell. The sense of smell is directly connected to the emotional brain and can
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