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DefinitionImpact play is a collective term within BDSM for all forms of play involving controlled strikes, taps, or thrusts to the body, administered by hand or with tools such as a paddle, whip, or flogger. The goal is not to cause injury, but to generate stimulation, tension, and emotional intensity. Impact play revolves around control, rhythm, and the subtle balance
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DefinitionIshidaki is a Japanese kneeling board or punishment board used to force someone to sit or rest in a kneeling position for a long period of time on a rough, hard, or painful surface. It is a traditional torture and punishment device that is used in modern BDSM as a discipline tool or for inflicting pain. Explanation of Ishidaki The
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DefinitionIRL is short for In Real Life and literally means ‘in real life’. Within the BDSM context, it refers to physical contact or experiences outside the online or virtual world. It is often used to distinguish between digital interaction (such as chat, cam, or online D/s) and actual encounters between Dominant and sub in reality. Explanation IRL In today’s BDSM
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DefinitionAn inflatable gag is a BDSM accessory that is placed in the mouth of the sub and then inflated with a pump. This causes the gag to fill the oral cavity and restrict the ability to speak, swallow, or breathe through the mouth. It is a tool often used in bondage, discipline, and control experiences, where the Dominant can literally
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DefinitionIntersex refers to a person born with physical or genetic characteristics that do not fully fit within the traditional medical definitions of male or female. This may relate to chromosomes, gonads, hormone levels, or genitalia. Intersexuality is a natural, biological variation within the human spectrum. Explanation of intersex Intersexuality is not a choice or identity, but an innate physical characteristic.
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DefinitionInjection needles are hollow needles that are normally used for medical applications, but sometimes play a role in BDSM needle play – a form of controlled skin penetration in which needles are used to experience pain, tension, or aesthetics. Explanation of injection needles In the world of BDSM, injection needles are mainly used in medical play or needle play. This
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DefinitionInfantilism is a form of age play in which an adult (usually the sub) consciously takes on the role of a child. This can range from behaviors such as speaking in a childlike voice or wearing children’s clothing, to completely assuming a childlike identity during a session or role play. The Dominant often takes on the role of parent, caregiver,
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DefinitionImprovising within BDSM means that a Dominant or sub responds creatively to the moment, without a predefined script or plan. It is the ability to feel, adapt, and respond spontaneously to whatever arises during play, while maintaining safety, consent, and connection. Explanation of improvisation Improvisation is one of the most underrated skills in BDSM. While many beginners strictly adhere to
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DefinitionIce cubes are used in BDSM as a play object for cold stimulation on the skin or intimate areas. This form of temperature play (temperature sensation) plays with the contrast between cold and heat, and can be used both sensually and sadistically. Explanation of ice cubes The use of ice cubes in BDSM is a relatively simple but effective way
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DefinitionIgnore play is a form of psychological domination in which the Dominant deliberately ignores or pays no attention to the submissive as part of an agreed game or dynamic. The aim is not to punish the sub, but to evoke feelings of rejection, desire, or powerlessness within a safe, controlled setting. Explanation of Ignore Play Ignore play is all about
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