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DefinitionAn intake interview or preliminary interview within BDSM is a preliminary, goal-oriented conversation in which the Dominant and sub discuss expectations, boundaries, desires, health, and safety before any form of play or dynamic takes place. Explanation of the intake Interview In many ways, an intake interview is the backbone of a responsible BDSM experience. It is the moment when two
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Here is an example of what an intake form might look like. Of course, everyone will fill it out in their own specific way. It’s important to think this through carefully beforehand and include points that are important to the Dominant in question. BDSM Intake Form Name: What is your desire? FemdomSMAgeplayKinky sexMedical Sexual activities: Oral Anal Experience: Extensive Moderate
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DefinitionAn intake form within BDSM is a written document that records important information about boundaries, preferences, health, and experience in preparation for a session or dynamic. Explanation of the Intake Form While an intake interview focuses on personal interaction and the nuances of the moment, an intake form provides structure, clarity, and a written record. It is essentially the written
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DefinitionImpact play is a collective term within BDSMfor all forms of play involving controlled strikes, taps, or thrusts to the body, administered by hand or with tools such as a paddle, whip, or flogger. The goal is not to cause injury, but to generate stimulation, tension, and emotional intensity. Impact play revolves around control, rhythm, and the subtle balance between
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DefinitionIshidaki is a Japanese kneeling board or punishment board used to force someone to sit or rest in a kneeling position for a long period of time on a rough, hard, or painful surface. It is a traditional torture and punishment device that is used in modern BDSM as a discipline tool or for inflicting pain. Explanation of Ishidaki The
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DefinitionIRL is short for In Real Life and literally means ‘in real life’. Within the BDSM context, it refers to physical contact or experiences outside the online or virtual world. It is often used to distinguish between digital interaction (such as chat, cam, or online D/s) and actual encounters between Dominant and sub in reality. Explanation IRL In today’s BDSM
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DefinitionAn inflatable gag is a BDSM accessory that is placed in the mouth of the sub and then inflated with a pump. This causes the gag to fill the oral cavity and restrict the ability to speak, swallow, or breathe through the mouth. It is a tool often used in bondage, discipline, and control experiences, where the Dominant can literally
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DefinitionIntersex refers to a person born with physical or genetic characteristics that do not fully fit within the traditional medical definitions of male or female. This may relate to chromosomes, gonads, hormone levels, or genitalia. Intersexuality is a natural, biological variation within the human spectrum. Explanation of intersex Intersexuality is not a choice or identity, but an innate physical characteristic.
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DefinitionInjection needles are hollow needles that are normally used for medical applications, but sometimes play a role in BDSM needle play – a form of controlled skin penetration in which needles are used to experience pain, tension, or aesthetics. Explanation of injection needles In the world of BDSM, injection needles are mainly used in medical play or needle play. This
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DefinitionInfantilism is a form of age play in which an adult (usually the sub) consciously takes on the role of a child. This can range from behaviors such as speaking in a childlike voice or wearing children’s clothing, to completely assuming a childlike identity during a session or role play. The Dominant often takes on the role of parent, caregiver,
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