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DefinitionSurrender within BDSM refers to the conscious relinquishment of control, both physical and mental, by the submissive. It is a state in which a person opens themselves completely to the guidance, touch, and intention of the Dominant, supported by trust, safety, and willingness. Explanation of surrender Surrender is perhaps the most essential element of BDSM. It is not about power
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DefinitionOTK, short for Over The Knee, is a classic spanking position in which the sub lies across the lap of the Dominant. It is one of the most recognizable and intimate forms of physical dominance within BDSM, often used in spanking, discipline, and role-playing. Explanation of OTK OTK is a traditional position that existed even before the modern BDSM scene.
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DefinitionAn orgasm is the physical and emotional release that occurs when sexual tension reaches a peak. It is accompanied by muscle contractions, deep relaxation, and a brief but intense feeling of pleasure. Within BDSM, an orgasm often has a ritual or hierarchical value, as it is directly influenced by the Dominant. Explanation of orgasm An orgasm is more than a
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DefinitionOrgasm control is a form of BDSM play in which the Dominant consciously takes control over whether or not to allow an orgasm. This can mean delaying, prohibiting, enforcing, or precisely timing a climax. The sub thereby relinquishes a deep sense of sexual control. Explanation of orgasm control Orgasm control comes in various forms, all of which revolve around the
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DefinitionOral sex within BDSM refers to any form of sexual stimulation with the mouth, lips, or tongue. It can be gentle, loving, or dominant and forceful, depending on the dynamic. Within BDSM, oral sex often has a power component, because the Dominant determines how, when, and with what intensity it takes place. Explanation of oral sex Oral sex can have
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DefinitionAbduction within BDSM refers to a staged, entirely voluntary, and prearranged form of role play in which a submissive is “taken away,” restrained, or overpowered within a safe context. It involves fantasy, power play, and adrenaline, never real coercion or danger. Explanation of kidnapping Kidnapping play is one of the most intense forms of psychological role-playing. The excitement comes not
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DefinitionA spreader bar or One Bar Prison is a bondage and immobilization technique in which the wrists and ankles of the sub are secured to a single, sturdy metal or wooden bar. The bar acts as a central anchor point, keeping the body tightly aligned and severely restricting freedom of movement. For a detailed explanation, see one bar prison. More
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DefinitionA One Bar Prison is a bondage and immobilization technique in which the wrists and ankles of the submissive are secured to a single, sturdy metal or wooden bar. The bar acts as a central anchor point, keeping the body tightly aligned and severely restricting freedom of movement. Explanation of one bar prison One Bar Prison is a minimalist but
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DefinitionObjectification within BDSM refers to the conscious treatment or experience of a person as an object, in a context of voluntary power play. The sub is temporarily reduced to a function, possession, or instrument, whereby their own will or identity is subordinated to the wishes of the Dominant.It is an intense form of psychological and symbolic play, in which words
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DefinitionNursing refers within BDSM to a form of caring or nurturing play, in which one of the partners takes on the role of caregiver, nurse, or nurturing figure. The term comes from the English word “to nurse” – to care for, comfort, or feed – and can range from gentle, caring attention to symbolic or actual breastfeeding (adult nursing). Explanation
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