Blowjob
Definition
A blowjob is the stimulation of the penis with the mouth, lips, and tongue. Within BDSM, a blowjob can have different meanings: from pure eroticism to an act of surrender, obedience, humiliation, or devotion. The meaning depends entirely on the context, the dynamics, and the intention with which it is given or requested.
Explanation of blowjob
In BDSM, a blowjob is rarely ‘just oral sex’. Whereas in the vanilla world it is often about arousal, performance, or pleasure, within a D/s dynamic this act often takes on a deeper meaning. It can be a sign of submission, of servitude, of ownership. Sometimes it is desired, sometimes begged for. Sometimes it is a reward – sometimes it is humiliation.
The sub who gives a blowjob literally and figuratively places themselves in a lower position. Kneeling, looking up, receiving. This can be voluntary, loving, even tender. But it can also be coercive, ritualistic, or harsh. The Dominant can take control—by grabbing the head, setting the pace, pushing deep—or leave the initiative to the sub.
Deepthroat
There are many forms of blowjobs within BDSM. The so-called deepthroat, in which the entire penis is taken deep into the throat, is sometimes used as a test of devotion. In facefucking, the Dominant takes complete control of the sub’s head and throat. Other variations include sloppy blowjobs (extra saliva, sounds, and roughness), rough moments of humiliation, or tender, slow actions within a love session.
Safety & points of attention
Not everyone can or wants to deepthroat. This requires training, calmness, and a good sense of one’s own limits.
Especially during facefucking or dominance play with head control, breathing difficulties can occur. Agree on a tap-out signal, such as tapping on the leg.
Make sure both mouths, hands, and genitals are clean. If you have mouth sores or are susceptible to STIs, it is wise to use a condom.
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