Beggar girls
Definition
Beggar girls (begging girls) is an informal, often critically used term within the BDSM and Femdom scene for women who present themselves as Dominants, but are mainly interested in gifts, money, or material benefits – without any substantive knowledge of BDSM, without real D/s dynamics, and often without a reciprocal experience.
Explanation of beggar girls
The term beggar girl is used in the BDSM and Femdom world for a certain type of ‘Domina profile’ that pops up online: women who pretend to be Mistresses, but in reality are mainly interested in gifts, money, gift vouchers, Tikkies, bol.com lists, or ‘urgent gifts’.
They use the language and symbolism of BDSM – words such as slave, D/s, loser, and devotion – but without deeper meaning, without knowledge of the game, and usually without any physical or mental connection to the submissive desires of the other person.
Social media
This type of behavior is particularly prevalent on social media, X, chat apps, and content platforms. Some of these women are young and curious, others deliberately calculating. What connects them is that the image of dominance they project often revolves around superficial power, financial control without reciprocity, and receiving gifts without any form of commitment, growth, or relationship.
The appeal? For some (novice) subs or money slaves (paypigs), it is exciting to give their money, possessions, or attention to a dominant woman. And in the right setting, that can also be part of a pleasant dynamic. But where real findom involves consent, structure, and a clear D/s bond, this is often far from the case with beggar girls. They often respond bluntly, demand money for no reason, block those who don’t pay, and offer no form of guidance, play experience, or recognition.
Financial exploitation
This often leads to disappointment, financial exploitation, or even psychological damage for gullible subs. These profiles also damage the image of real Mistresses and Pro Dommes, who do work based on experience, consent, structure, play experience, and mutual respect.
Nevertheless, it is important to remain lenient in our judgment: some beggar girls are young, insecure, or ignorant. They mirror themselves on online images of “powerful women” and try to gain control in a world where female dominance is rarely truly appreciated. The problem lies not in the desire, but in the lack of depth, transparency, and responsibility.
Safety & points of attention
Learn the difference between a Pro Domme and a beggar girl
A professional Mistress offers a session, an experience, a connection—not empty demands. Transparency, consent, and safety are her top priorities.
Giving money is okay, but know why you are doing it
If you choose to give money to a Domme, do so consciously. Ask yourself: is this part of a dynamic or am I filling a void?
Stay alert to manipulative behavior
Phrases such as “If you really serve me, transfer €50 now” are not a sign of dominance, but of emotional pressure. Real D/s knows no coercion.
Protect young kinksters from bad examples
Young women discovering their power deserve better role models than the stereotype of quick money through begging games. Education is more important than rejection.
Online kink is not a license for exploitation
Consent remains essential, even at a distance. Giving money, attention, or worship is allowed, but only if it is done clearly and voluntarily.
Related terms beggar girls
Findom
Femdom
Online dominance
Paypigs
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