De complete BDSM encyclopedie voor kennis, veiligheid en beleving
DefinitionA hard limit is a clear, non-negotiable boundary within BDSM. It is the boundary that a person is unwilling or unable to cross under any circumstances. A hard limit can be physical, mental, or emotional, and forms the absolute bottom line of safety and consent within any BDSM experience. Explanation of hard limits Within BDSM, a distinction is made between
Read more
DefinitionHandcuffs, or simply cuffs, are objects that can be used to restrain someone’s hands, ankles, or other body parts, with the aim of restricting their freedom of movement. Within BDSM, cuffs are used for bondage, surrender, and power exchange, often in combination with other forms of play. For a detailed explanation, see cuffs. More information EncyclopediaLetter H
Read more
DefinitionHOM is short for Hand over mouth. This is a BDSMpractice in which the Dominant places his or her hand over the mouth of the sub to partially restrict speech, moaning, or breathing. It is a physical expression of control and silence, often used during a scene to enhance power, tension, or surrender. For a detailed explanation, see Hand over
Read more
DefinitionHand over mouth (abbreviated H.O.M.) is a BDSMpractice in which the Dominant places his or her hand over the mouth of the sub to partially restrict speech, moaning, or breathing. It is a physical expression of control and silence, often used during a scene to enhance power, tension, or surrender. Explanation Hand over mouth Hand over mouth has a strong
Read more
DefinitionE.L. James is the pseudonym of British author Erika Leonard Mitchell (born in 1963), known for the international bestselling trilogy Fifty Shades of Grey. Her books introduced a wide audience to the concept of BDSM, although her work is often criticized within the real BDSM community for its inaccurate or romanticized portrayal of power, consent, and psychological safety. Explanation James
Read more
DefinitionBoundaries are the physical, emotional, and mental limits that determine what someone will or will not accept within BDSM. They form the foundation of safe and consensual play, protecting both Dominant and submissive from harm, overload, or emotional transgression. Explanation of boundaries Within BDSM, boundaries are not a restriction, but rather a prerequisite for freedom. They provide direction, clarity, and
Read more
DefinitionA Gorean Master is, within the Gorean lifestyle, the man who fulfills the role of natural ruler, based on the hierarchical structure from John Norman’s Gor books. He embodies strength, discipline, responsibility, and honor, and has complete control over his kajira (female slave). His dominance is seen as an expression of natural order, in which obedience and protection are balanced
Read more
DefinitionGor is the name of a fictional planet from the book series by author John Norman, on which there is a society with strict hierarchies between men and women. Within the BDSMculture, Gor refers to the Gorean lifestyle, in which domination, obedience, honor, and natural role distribution are central. The term is used to describe both the world from the
Read more
DefinitionGor refers to the fictional planet that is central to the Gor book series by author John Norman. The term Gorean lifestyle refers to the lifestyle, philosophy, or division of roles that emerged from these books. Within the BDSM world, Gorean lifestyle refers to a form of strictly hierarchical dominance and submission, inspired by the relationships between Masters and slaves
Read more
DefinitionA golden shower is a sexual or fetishistic act in which one person deliberately urinates on another, usually as part of a BDSM or humiliation game. The experience is not primarily about urine itself, but about power, surrender, shame, intimacy, or trust between dominant and submissive. Explanation of golden shower The term golden shower refers to the golden color of
Read more